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How to Support Your Child in Middle School Math

Balancing Independence and Assistance

Crystal Paul
Middle school is a critical time for students, especially when it comes to subjects like math. As a parent, you want to help your child succeed, but it can be challenging to know when to step in and when to let them handle things on their own. Striking the right balance between independence and support is key to helping your child develop confidence and competence in math. Here’s how you can do just that.

1. Encourage Independent Problem-Solving

One of the most valuable skills your child can develop in middle school math is the ability to solve problems independently. Encourage them to tackle homework and study sessions on their own first. This allows them to engage deeply with the material, think critically, and build resilience. Let them struggle a bit—this struggle is where learning happens. If they’re stuck, guide them with questions rather than giving them the answers. For example, ask them to explain what they do understand about the problem and what steps they’ve tried so far.
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2. Provide Support When They're Truly Stuck

While it’s important to promote independence, there are times when your child will genuinely need your support. If they’ve been working on a problem for a while and still can’t find the solution, it’s okay to step in. Help them break down the problem into smaller steps or show them a different approach. If you’re not confident with the math task, assist them in identifying resources that can help them progress. Encourage them to review their class notes, reach out to a friend, or schedule time to meet with the teacher. The key is to assist without taking over—help them find the path, but let them walk it themselves.

3. Create a Structured Learning Environment

Having a consistent routine can greatly benefit your child’s math studies. Set up a specific time and place for homework and study sessions. A quiet, well-lit space with minimal distractions can help them focus. Encourage them to review their notes before starting homework and to keep all their materials organized. Speaking of materials, make sure there are extra pencils and graph paper on hand. This structured environment promotes discipline and helps them manage their time effectively.

4. Encourage the Use of Resources

Sometimes, your child might need more help than you can provide. Encourage them to use additional resources such as online tutorials, material given from the teacher, their math textbook, or even a phone call to a classmate. If they’re struggling with a particular topic, suggest watching educational videos that explain the concept in different ways. A couple math tutorials online I like are Khan Academy and Math Antics. You can also encourage them to attend extra help sessions offered by their teacher or join a study group. Teaching them how to find and use resources is a valuable skill that will serve them well throughout their education.

5. Celebrate Effort, Not Just Results

It’s important to focus on the effort your child puts into their math work, not just the grades they receive. Praise them for their hard work, persistence, and willingness to tackle challenging problems. Celebrating their effort helps build a growth mindset, where they understand that their abilities can improve with practice and dedication. This mindset will encourage them to keep trying, even when the material is difficult.

6. Know When to Step Back

As your child progresses through middle school, they should gradually take on more responsibility for their own learning. This means you’ll need to step back more often. Resist the urge to check every homework assignment or to intervene at the first sign of struggle. Instead, ask them how they feel about their progress and what they think they need help with. Trusting them to manage their own learning builds their confidence and independence. On that note, a helpful way for parents to encourage their child’s independence while staying informed is to have their child email the teacher to request extra help, and ask your child to include you in the email by copying you on it. This puts the responsibility on your child while allowing you to be part of the communication.

7. Communicate with Their Teacher

Regular communication with your child’s math teacher can provide valuable insights into their progress and any areas where they might need extra support. Attend parent-teacher conferences and don’t hesitate to reach out if you have concerns. Teachers can offer specific advice on how to support your child at home and can alert you to any issues before they become major problems. I sometimes receive parent emails ‘just checking in’ to see how their child is doing and whether or not they need to provide any extra support. A teacher’s perspective on how a student is performing during the school day is an invaluable resource.

Everything in Moderation, Right?

Supporting your child in middle school math requires striking the right balance between providing guidance and fostering independence. This can be challenging, as the level of support a child needs varies greatly from student to student, and their needs can change over time. Remember to give yourself the same grace to make mistakes and learn along the way as you help your child grow into an independent learner. As you move forward, keep these key points in mind: focus on effort over results, encourage independent problem-solving, teach them how to access resources, and recognize that you are one of their most valuable resources as they gain independence.

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About the Author

Crystal Paul

As an educator with a Masters in Special Education and 18 years of experience teaching math to middle school students, I specialize in helping those who find math challenging. I prioritize not only identifying but also closing any learning gaps, while building conceptual understanding and fostering confidence and independence in mathematics. My goal is to empower students and to transform their relationship with math.